I would like to welcome Ruthie from Rear. Release. Regroup. I enjoy the wisdom that she shares on her blog and in her new book:
Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration
How to Develop a Pleasant Tone with Your Tribe
by Ruthie of Rear. Release. Regroup.
Do you have a pleasant tone of voice when you speak to your children or give them a directive? (Are you rolling your eyes at me right now?)
I will admit right up front that I’ve always struggled with this one. My tone of voice is awful when I’m irritated or even just focused on my own “plan” (quite possibly mowing others down in the process).
Proverbs 12:18 (NKJV) says:
“There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword,
But the tongue of the wise promotes health”
Does your voice sound like claws on a chalkboard when you speak to your kids?
I hate the way the first part of this verse sounds.
I don’t want to figuratively pierce my children’s hearts.
But I LOVE the second half of the verse!
I want a wise tongue that promotes health and healing! Don’t you?
Plan of Attack
1.) CHECK your tone before you speak. Take a few breaths, put your hand over your mouth if necessary (Proverbs 30:32)
2.) PRAY quickly and ask God for help
3.) PRETEND your child (or husband) is someone who just called and you automatically changed your tone so they’d think you were nice (SEE??? We ARE capable of it)!
4.) CREATE lists. Lists were my very best friend when getting my kids to do their chores or help with spring cleaning. If they didn’t have to hear it from me, somehow it went better! Kids love checking things off and getting it done! (Doesn’t everyone?)
5.) SPEAK HEALING to your child each day. Find ways to compliment for a job well done, a rare moment of sharing, or anything positive you can find. Make sure you’ve done this at least once before going to bed at night. And be SURE to always say, “I love you”!
As always, the best way to cut out old habits is to establish new ones. We must replacing our negative tone of voice with positive speech and affirming words. Even if we do slip up in a moment of anger (and let’s face it, we all do), if we make a practice of graceful speech, it will go a long way with our tribe.
If you have been foolish, exalting yourself, or if you have been devising evil, put your hand over your mouth. Proverbs 30:32
Did you see that??? Sometimes, I just need to put our hand over my mouth. What about you? What a practical suggestion straight from God’s Word!
My new book, Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration, presents nine essential steps to overcome anger. Offering Scripture Pillars (ACTION verses), Scripture prayers, a plan of attack for each chapter, this book will set you on the road towards recovery. The book is full of key Biblical strategies to help you parent gracefully and learn the Biblical approach to anger.
How do I know? I teach this method to a group of moms, and they are seeing wins and overcoming their anger by implementing Scripture Pillars (ACTION verses)!
At just $7.00, this book is a small investment to make toward a big difference in the dynamic of your family. Are you ready to take the necessary steps to freedom and let God control your anger?
Ruthie Gray is a wife, mom of four, Gigi, and caregiver, living in the sandwich generation and blogging to keep her sanity. When she’s not snacking on plastic drumsticks with her two-year-old grandson, The Tiny Tornado, you can find her coaching other moms on how to raise responsible kids and enjoy them at RearReleaseRegroup.com.
Thank you to Ruthie for sharing with us today! Stop by and check out her blog: Rear. Release. Regroup. or consider checking out her book: Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration.